Even in the face of trauma and tragedy, there is nothing more precious than taking ownership of your own healing process. The healing of victimization comes out of taking control of your life taking you away from the experience of the victim and perpetrator dynamic in which you constantly find yourself becoming someone else's victim. Taking control implies surrendering the urge to blame external factors, the other, life and god, but to name those and also the ways you have contributed to your own experience.
In which way pointing at external failure limits the extend of what you can do for yourself?
In which way the healing comes from not confining yourself to the circumstances but transcending them beyond others limiting ideas of you or what you can become?
To what extent never finding the ways you contribute to your current existence is making you unaware of your own blind spots?
Here I share an extract of an inspiring thought which deeply resonates with the idea of taking responsibility for your life:
Your greatest enemy is not found in your circumstances, limitations, other people's opinions of you, your seemingly failed dreams and expectations, your apparent impossibilities, or any other "obvious" reason outside of You.
It's easy to point fingers at all the broken pieces, at everything that isn't working in your life.
Yet this is a massive waste of your creative energy & heart investments.
Blaming your outer world is a distraction that keeps you from what's really happening inside.
Your greatest enemy lives within you, and it is slowly eating you alive like an unwelcome parasite.
Merari E. Fernández Castro,